Bad neighbors are a pain, but worst yet is living with annoying flatmates because you have to live and share the same ceiling. You might be going through this exact scenario: you’ve just travelled to London and you’re about to move into your very first flatshare. How can you guarantee that you won’t have any problems with your new flatmates? How to prevent a flatshare argument?
Well, of course, you can’t 100% guarantee that there won’t be a personality clash, but here at EasyRoommate, we know that there are plenty of ways that you can minimise potential tension points.
1. Time Together, Time Apart
Regardless of whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, everybody needs a little bit of time to themselves. If you’re the sort of person who enjoys a little bit of alone time, make sure you communicate that to your new flatmates. You’re paying rent for your room – you might as well take full advantage of it.
There’s nothing worse than feeling like you’re not making the most of the time you do spend with your new mates because you’ve not had chance to be alone.
2. Money Matters
Bills. The bane of all adults’ lives. When you’re flatsharing, it’s important to get all of the nitty gritty ugly stuff out of the way, so when you’re looking through your tenancy agreement, ensure you also get a sense of your bill responsibilities.
Ask whether you’re going to be splitting bills equally between all tenants, or whether different individuals will need to pay for different bills. Council tax should also be on your radar. If you’re living with a student, you may need to pay more than you would otherwise
3. Compatible Routines
If you’re a bit of a night owl but you live with people who enjoy their 8-hours-sleep, it’s a little bit inconsiderate to blast our your music at 2am on a Wednesday night. Make sure that you’re respectful of your flatmates’ routines, learn what bugs them, and then live by their clock. If you can find a happy compromise, you’re all more like to get on better.
This extends to things like discovering what time your housemates wake up. If there are three of you all waiting to use the shower at 7.15am, somebody’s going to be late for work. If you’re new to the flat, it would probably be best for you to wake up that extra bit earlier and jump in the shower first. Just don’t use all the water.
4. Party Palaver
Depending on what type of person you are, the idea of a house party in your own house might sound like a dream or a nightmare. If you’re keen to host your own party, make sure you’re respectful of your flatmates’ views. Don’t want it to run all night? Set a curfew. Don’t want people in your room, lock your door or make provocative signs that ward people off.
If you’re the sort of person who shivers even at the thought of a house party but your flatmates are adamant, make sure you let them know. It’s your right as a member of the flat to be part of the discussion. You might be able to find some common ground where the party ends early and moves to a club – you won’t have that influence if you don’t participate in the conversation.
5. From Day One
Living with somebody is a commitment. A big one! If you’re moving into a house share with people from a flatshare website, it’s extremely unlikely that you’ve met them before. This means you should learn to get to know them quickly. Let them know all of the things that might cause a problem as early as you can, and that way you can work to reduce the risk of confrontation.
With these five points, you should be able to avoid any majour flatshare argument.